Welcome to DAY 4! I want to talk about peace and share my framework for using conscious communication.
If you're anything like me - you reeeeaaally want to be calm and nonjudgmental in your communication - but it's a work in progress (sometimes more work than progress).
But before we talk about how to use conscious communication to resolve conflict - we have to feel (somewhat) peaceful.
My go-to tool is meditation. I know it might be hard to quiet your mind and get centered.
You might even be tempted to skip this step and jump on the daily support session to ask a question about your child's behavior.
I'm begging you not to do that! First, click here to listen to this 5-min (non-guided) healing tones meditation, and then download today's infographic.
I want to share with you a step-by-step path to peace.
Now that you've learned the importance of reframing behavior and taking control of your reactive behavior, you're ready to start interacting in new ways.
Your language, attitude, and tone ALL affect your child's ability to meet your expectations.
Learning to change the way you speak can take time and practice.
Sometimes, you won't know WHAT to say. It's okay to be silent.
Being respectful is more important than saying the "right" thing.
Practicing mindfulness will allow your body to relax and your mind to open up to the words and creative solutions that already exist within you.
DAY 4: After you've centered yourself with today's 5-Min Meditation, print/hang this infographic so you can refer to it in the moment.
The TEACH Tool outlines my 3-pronged approach to understanding behavior and five steps for peaceful conflict resolution.
There are also a bunch of conscious communication language examples illustrating what each step might sound like in real-life.
Right-click to download and save the TEACH Tool Info-graphic to your computer.
Use these conversation starters as a guide, but remember that development has its own unique timeline, and cooperation is a two-way street.
If you want your kids to learn to be respectful and consider others, remember that their ability to adapt and be flexible is still taking shape.
So much of their development depends on how we treat them when they're feeling dysregulated.
This 5-step process will give you a plan of action for addressing the root cause of negative behavior without being permissive.
TRY IT OUT, and then watch today's support session and share your experience with us.
Have a great day, and I'll see you tomorrow for DAY 5!
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